#ifeellucky (a memoir)

#ifeellucky
what I told my Friends after that motherf*cker left me

Paperback

Available Spring 2020

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If you are going through a divorce, have gone through a divorce and still have conflicted feelings, or you are supporting someone going through a divorce, you need this book. Trust me. I wish I had had it when I went through mine. ~Gayle S.

I’ve already recommended Crys’ book to a friend whose husband recently left her out of the blue. I can think of no better way to give her hope that there’s light at the end of the tunnel than Crys’ experience and the way she writes about it. ~Deborah G.


From the back coverExtrasWhat people are saying


From the back cover

When Crystal’s husband walked out at the end of September in 2014, he presented it as a temporary situation — he just needed space. He promised to pay the bills, send money, visit often, and stay in touch.

But by Thanksgiving, she hadn’t seen him in over a month, and by Christmas, he’d ghosted her, and she never heard from him again. After 14 years together, he was just … gone.

He was living in his car when they first met, but he had a top-level job at a multi-million-dollar company when he left her with just $200 in the bank and an apartment she couldn’t afford to keep.

She was drowning in grief, stress, and fear when she decided that, surely, death would be better — but then she bumped into an old beau who dared her to live. From 2,000 miles away, he proposed a 4-part plan: “Move out, get a job, get a divorce, and then come see me.”

With those words, he drew a map to the new life that was waiting for her, and you can follow that journey through the Facebook updates she posted to her Friends. As they did, you’ll ride the highs and lows of grieving a loss with the ups and downs of reassembling a shattered world.

You’ll meet the loving mom who kept Crys’ chin up while keeping a roof over her head; the unflappable therapist who gently nudged her along her path; Mr. Montana, the old beau who became her truest ally; and a host of angels who magically appeared with the right words at the right time.

Her road back to life wasn’t smooth, straight, or easy, but the way was lit by love, laughter, and the most ridiculous luck that Mr. Montana had ever seen.

Extras

Listen to the #ifeellucky playlist on Spotify

Have you noticed how the important moments in our lives come with a soundtrack? Maybe it’s the songs that were playing in the background at the time, or we’ll hear lyrics now that remind us of that place, that person, or that thing that happened way back when.

This book is sprinkled with song titles and lyrics that helped me get through those hellish 18 months, so I made a playlist for you — hope you enjoy it, too! And yeah, it’s an odd mix, but those were crazy times! ~Crystal

What people are saying

I want to read everything Crys writes because she is more than just a storyteller (though she is an amazing one), she calls me into this space that is personal. And universal. She does it with humor, clarity, and fierce insightfulness. Crys and her words are a treasure, and I can’t wait to read this book! ~Jo Anna D.

If you are ready to read truth that softens the hardnesses that hurt creates, understand that you are not alone, have insights delivered that alter your trajectory, and have a damn good laugh, then Crys is for you. In all the years I have orbited Crys’ sun, she has never failed to make me glad to know her and feel honoured to read her wisdom and understanding. She’s made me glad to be here many times. Read her. ~Jane C.

Here is why you need to read what Crys writes: because she tells the truth. There is something about how she names the particular details of her experience that connects to a universal truth. When Crys describes a personal challenge, I often feel seen and validated. I think, “Yes, I have been there too.” When she shares a triumph, I feel more hopeful and optimistic about my ability to make it too. Part of it is that she’s a damn fine writer: she knows her ways with words and sentences for sure. But most of it is that she tells it how it really is. She looks at herself and her environment unflinchingly, and then find compassionate ways of understanding what’s going on. Whatever Crys writes — read it. ~Julica D.

When I first started reading Crys’ posts on Facebook, it took a minute for me to get past the ‘F’ word because I had “Christianly” stopped using it! I was, however, pulled in by her truth, her grit, her hurt and pain, and I saw the awesome strength of a woman powerful enough to get raw and real with us, all in the sharing of her story! There will be parts in this book that will resonate with every woman, and you will be so grateful you took the time to read it. ~Veronica S.

Crys has got to be read. She weaves magic with her words and evokes a tumble of emotions with her poetic descriptions …she just says it better, and you either have got it or you haven’t, and believe me, Crys has got it… ~Sal R.

If you aren’t reading Crys’ writing, you’re missing out! Powerful, funny, insightful, beautifully written. I can’t wait to read the book! ~Isabelle K.

I’ve already recommended Crys’ book to a friend whose husband recently left her out of the blue. I can think of no better way to give her hope that there’s light at the end of the tunnel than Crys’ experience and the way she writes about it. ~Deborah G.

When I see Crys’s name in my news feed on Facebook or Patreon, I always feel an anticipatory thrill, because I know I’m in for a treat. I know that whatever the topic, what she has written will be real, relatable, honest and deep. And beautifully written! Her writing is as gorgeous as the fabled Montana landscape that forms the backdrop for her new life. I can’t wait to read an entire book by her. 💙 ~Amy C.

If you are going through a divorce, have gone through a divorce and still have conflicted feelings, or you are supporting someone going through a divorce, you need this book. Trust me. I wish I had had it when I went through mine. ~Gayle S.

Crys’s writing is so eloquent, so real, so funny, and so honest, that I open every post and email I see from her. I find myself rooting for her, cheering her on, and being angry, thrilled and hopeful on her behalf – as I would for any friend, even though we’ve never met face to face. ~Susan B.

If “voice” is what makes writing human, then Crys is one of the most humanest human writers I know. Her voice, her writing, is sublimely human, and that’s why you need to read what she writes. ~Karen A.